Thirty years ago, my first female lover accused me of being overly male-identified because I didn't mind going to mainstream movies that featured men in the starring roles. Didn't I know that, as a lesbian, I should only go to women-centred movies?
Then, just a couple of weeks ago, I was at a lezzie birthday party and history -- sorry, herstory -- repeated itself. Another partygoer accused me of being too fond of -- in her words -- dick flicks. My crime? I had innocently mentioned that I enjoyed seeing Captain America: Civil War.
Nice to know some things never change, eh? Welcome to Lesbian Nation!
That silly incident made me think of the classic satirical song What Kind of Self Respecting Faggot Am I? by Romanovsky & Phillips, which is all about failing to live up to our own LGBTQ community's cultural norms and expectations. Give it a listen, but be forewarned -- early 1990s fashion and hair styles ahead, LOL! Plus there's a bonus for you fans of Orange is the New Black -- check out the photo of a very young Lea DeLaria ("Big Boo") at 3:29 of the video.