tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4666990364305390259.post5778303637455534641..comments2024-03-29T09:41:13.041-06:00Comments on She Who Seeks: "See You At The Club!"Debra She Who Seekshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01845703092794695023noreply@blogger.comBlogger40125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4666990364305390259.post-43376910378127606302017-06-29T21:36:31.040-06:002017-06-29T21:36:31.040-06:00I've never been to a lesbian bar, but I've...I've never been to a lesbian bar, but I've been to the same gay bar a number of times in recent years. It's one of my favorite bars in Honolulu: Hula's on Kapahulu Ave. Hula's is on the second the second floor of the Waikiki Grand Hotel, and its whole front side is open to the outside and looks out over the Honolulu Zoo and the full sweep of Diamond Head. I've never been there during a drag show or later in the evening when it gets "freer." But I love sitting at the bar, enjoying mai tais, listening to great live music, and chatting with the fun bartenders. I have always been treated with respect and welcomed by the gay staff and patrons. Fundy Bluehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02132147630106183853noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4666990364305390259.post-82714621941166305712017-06-29T19:34:17.839-06:002017-06-29T19:34:17.839-06:00I have never been to a gay bar before. But, I have...I have never been to a gay bar before. But, I have been down to the "Gay Village" in Toronto. And, I have to admit, I have even kissed a girl! Not there. Funny enough, she was a girl I worked with and she was married!! Long time ago! LOL! Magic Love Crowhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14133368208464734546noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4666990364305390259.post-37069795207021381042017-06-29T11:33:20.536-06:002017-06-29T11:33:20.536-06:00number 2 asshole took me to San Francisco to Pheno...number 2 asshole took me to San Francisco to Phenocio's..??? not sure of the spelling...I was a very naive 25 year old..he gave me no clue to where we were going or what to expect..It was amazing..all these beautiful women and then there were some not so beautiful women that I realized might just be men dressing up as women..wow..that's cool..we were right next to the stage ..I mean front row...and then the beautiful lady that was the announcer came over to where we were sitting and leaned over and said I'd give anything to have a pair of tits like yours and everyone laughed and I of course laughed too...when she moved on I asked Bill why would she want a pair of tits like mine? she has great tits..and Bill laughed and said 'she's a he'...he spent the rest of the night explaining homosexuality, transgenders and cross dressing to me..wow..what a new and wonderful world it was...and from that moment (1968) I became gay friendly.. only good thing I got out of that marriage.yellowdoggrannyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14906624317290990109noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4666990364305390259.post-22471544656014235972017-06-27T16:02:07.460-06:002017-06-27T16:02:07.460-06:00Good old times that must have been back then. I ha...Good old times that must have been back then. I have never been to a gay bar, but I have heard stories. But I did go to a bar once and was approached...ahem. Greetings!Blogorattihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12821621371176285384noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4666990364305390259.post-71869993076205657222017-06-27T11:06:24.273-06:002017-06-27T11:06:24.273-06:00Hi Debra :) I grew up in Montreal and worked in ba...Hi Debra :) I grew up in Montreal and worked in bars until my early 20's, so going to gay bars and clubs was kind of the norm. We just went wherever everyone else was going, so sometimes it was straight clubs (or do I just say clubs???) sometimes it was gay clubs. I think the first one I ever went to was in 1987 in the "gay village" of Montreal, it might have been called Sky Bar, but I just can't remember! I do however remember it mostly being guys and there was a drag queen show. It was a fun experience for me. I didn't get hit on at all though lol...Rain https://www.blogger.com/profile/14377719049819222133noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4666990364305390259.post-87111556778365987652017-06-27T09:43:42.484-06:002017-06-27T09:43:42.484-06:00Never made it to a gay bar..I really haven't b...Never made it to a gay bar..I really haven't been to very many bars..maybe at the shore in my 20's in the summer..Sorry I can't share any interesting stories ..enjoyed yours..This N Thathttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14660035693962636210noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4666990364305390259.post-21159254055057961232017-06-27T06:36:21.237-06:002017-06-27T06:36:21.237-06:00The first gay bar I ever went to was called Lush. ...The first gay bar I ever went to was called Lush. It was right outside the gates of a military base. I loved the place. It was the only spot I could go to and dance all night without having to keep myself from punching someone in the face. The thing I loved most was that although everyone knew I was straight, no one ever made me feel unwelcome. It was a safe place. Magaly Guerrerohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18295455026184103230noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4666990364305390259.post-82453937864736326862017-06-26T21:03:01.492-06:002017-06-26T21:03:01.492-06:00@ Plowing Through Life -- Good for you, Martha! Yo...@ Plowing Through Life -- Good for you, Martha! You had the courage to act against popular opinion and bring up your girls right!Debra She Who Seekshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01845703092794695023noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4666990364305390259.post-66287616546006529472017-06-26T20:49:32.362-06:002017-06-26T20:49:32.362-06:00I've never been to a gay bar and I feel depriv...I've never been to a gay bar and I feel deprived! However, I did invite a gay couple to my house for dinner when my older daughter was a toddler. This was back in...oh...about 1995. Everyone I knew opposed and criticized and disliked anything related to the LGBT community, so this took guts to do. I went against the general opinion. This has to count for something, no? Bah, who cares. I did it because these were my friends and because I wanted to raise my daughter to love. She had enough outside negativity to contend with and I wanted her foundation (me) to help guide her in the right direction. It paid off. Both my girls are very loving and I'm proud of them.Marthahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09262406079948479112noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4666990364305390259.post-26790098680310667462017-06-26T16:04:47.222-06:002017-06-26T16:04:47.222-06:00I'm so dull that I've only been in about h...I'm so dull that I've only been in about half a dozen bars in my life. I'm sure I haven't been anyplace as interesting as a gay bar. My son went to a gay bar here in Jacksonville. He said quite a few guys hit on him.<br /><br />Love,<br />JanieJanie Junebughttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10573607241326291404noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4666990364305390259.post-52196799256874191372017-06-26T14:28:26.019-06:002017-06-26T14:28:26.019-06:00The first gay bar I went into was 'Reflections...The first gay bar I went into was 'Reflections' in 1973. I had just met my husband-to-be, Ron, and we drove in from the Annapolis Valley to the big city of Halifax!! Couldn't believe there were SO MANY gay people there!!<br />what a relief it was to just be yourself with no one watching and judging.<br />Oh, this club just closed this year.Jimhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11199777195853274898noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4666990364305390259.post-51144792128366348692017-06-26T14:10:42.317-06:002017-06-26T14:10:42.317-06:00@ Jamie Meyers -- Well, that was a happy accident!...@ Jamie Meyers -- Well, that was a happy accident! I hope your bi-curiosity ultimately got satisfied, Jamie!Debra She Who Seekshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01845703092794695023noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4666990364305390259.post-724866248479279392017-06-26T13:57:00.258-06:002017-06-26T13:57:00.258-06:00Funny story, way back when, a friend of mine from ...Funny story, way back when, a friend of mine from college and I went to go to a hockey game that was sold out. Disappointed, we decided to look for a bar where we could go and watch the game on TV. We asked some locals where such a bar might be and they gave us the name of a place. We went there and ordered beers. Looked around and no TV. Oh well, that was disappointing. My friend excused himself to go to the men's room. While he was there I suddenly noticed all the patrons were guys and the light went on. When he returned, my friend marveled at the condom machines they had in the restrooms. I revealed my revelation and we both got a good laugh at that. <br /><br />He never knew that I was bi curious and found the experience more interesting than he probably did.Jamie Meyershttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15184760000629386642noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4666990364305390259.post-82921848929009284592017-06-26T12:56:01.733-06:002017-06-26T12:56:01.733-06:00I went to a Drag Queen show last week. It was incr...I went to a Drag Queen show last week. It was incredibly frustrating, Debra, because there were many hot, friendly men there . . . with their boyfriends. <br /><br />It's not a gay bar per se, but it's the closest thing we have to one. That's cool; it used to be a Harley Biker bar. Now it's the most customer-friendly, all accepting bar in town. <br /><br />Have a great week.Rawknrobyn.blogspot.comhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15997241410192066577noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4666990364305390259.post-54918069634406092242017-06-26T11:55:44.938-06:002017-06-26T11:55:44.938-06:00I don't think I was ever in a gay bar. I had h...I don't think I was ever in a gay bar. I had heard of a few and walked by some over the years. Just the other day there was a discussion on the Chicago NPR station about the changes in Chicago's "boy's town" area. I wonder if these distinct areas will so start disappearing too as acceptance increases. Bill Lislemanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15187273560129198423noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4666990364305390259.post-55738092863767936692017-06-26T11:20:48.344-06:002017-06-26T11:20:48.344-06:00@ Frank -- That is a VERY apt description of what ...@ Frank -- That is a VERY apt description of what it was like to go into a gay bar then! What a contrast between the vibrant interiors and the discreetly plain, downplayed exteriors! Back in the old days, of course, they didn't even have signage on the exteriors to indicate where the bars were located -- you either were "in the know" about where they were or you weren't.Debra She Who Seekshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01845703092794695023noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4666990364305390259.post-64915554883379358662017-06-26T11:18:50.419-06:002017-06-26T11:18:50.419-06:00The only Gay bar I went to was The Plantation. I g...The only Gay bar I went to was The Plantation. I got hit on twice. It was a fun place because everyone dressed up and danced all night long. The DJ was awesome. And no, I didn't go home with anyone.Leannahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02313664441343901006noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4666990364305390259.post-30656072761843197122017-06-26T11:14:41.169-06:002017-06-26T11:14:41.169-06:00I came out late in life (I was 36) and remember fo...I came out late in life (I was 36) and remember fondly the first time I went to Backstreet in Hartford, CT with my new boyfriend - a disco bar on a non-descript street in an industrial area...it was like walking from a deserted city into the land of OZ where all was technicolor and throbbing music and gaiety and hundreds of bodies dancing. Heaven, I thought, couldn't be better. I am so glad I had the opportunity to experience several gay bars during the 80's before most closed. Lots of good times.Frankhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04058312079036935995noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4666990364305390259.post-20965707923622151422017-06-26T11:13:21.479-06:002017-06-26T11:13:21.479-06:00@ MrsDuncanMahogany -- I may be out of date, but I...@ MrsDuncanMahogany -- I may be out of date, but I think the only gay bar in Winnipeg still left from "the old days" is Club 200 (used to be the drag bar, I don't know if it still is). Gio's and Happenings (and of course Ms Purdy's) are all long gone now, alas. But I see from an internet search that there's a new one downtown called Fame Night Club.Debra She Who Seekshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01845703092794695023noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4666990364305390259.post-90500296438889385532017-06-26T11:04:30.975-06:002017-06-26T11:04:30.975-06:00LOL Ms. Purdy's!!!! That red awning is foreve...LOL Ms. Purdy's!!!! That red awning is forever etched into my memory!!! But sadly, I have never been to a gay bar. I am not a "bar" person but that should not be my excuse!!!MrsDuncanMahoganyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14530532280823055509noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4666990364305390259.post-86429594612407629932017-06-26T10:14:56.071-06:002017-06-26T10:14:56.071-06:00I think it was called the Eagle. It was definitely...I think it was called the Eagle. It was definitely in San Francisco. Went because a dj we liked was playing there. Disappointingly, did not get hit on at all! Professor Chaoshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07983291640844939759noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4666990364305390259.post-73543126992999019692017-06-26T09:31:40.169-06:002017-06-26T09:31:40.169-06:00The first gay bar I ever went to was a club called...The first gay bar I ever went to was a club called 'Bronx' in Cape Town, quickly followed by a visit to 'Sliver' (a lesbian club) and then 'Club 55' (gay bar). This was in what is today known as 'gay village' in Cape Town. Sadly, none of these clubs still exist however there are new clubs and many restaurants all proudly flying rainbow flags.Sadist's magickhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06781230922110785864noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4666990364305390259.post-68813295572624608022017-06-26T09:19:29.151-06:002017-06-26T09:19:29.151-06:00Too's Company, in the suburbs of Cleveland.Too's Company, in the suburbs of Cleveland.Kirkhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02155991693956178030noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4666990364305390259.post-62122189933157410002017-06-26T09:06:08.893-06:002017-06-26T09:06:08.893-06:00Hmmm? In reference to my other comment on kindness...Hmmm? In reference to my other comment on kindness! 1969/70 naive runaway found myself safe in the gay community. Maitland & Young st, Church St. , Jarvis & Parlament Toronto. Safe from cops picking up young girls, & taking them to cherry beach, rounders, bikers, my first education on survival was from the gay community, when it was very dangerous for them and me. La Trik up from Sam the record man on Younge St ......other names I can't remember. Debihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11247185048977956807noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4666990364305390259.post-52919410948070243432017-06-26T08:56:12.179-06:002017-06-26T08:56:12.179-06:00@ A Beer for the Shower -- Oh, Bryan and Brandon, ...@ A Beer for the Shower -- Oh, Bryan and Brandon, you know I would NEVER make a beard joke about your lovely wives.Debra She Who Seekshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01845703092794695023noreply@blogger.com