The Lovers soul path involves interpersonal and romantic relationships, but not in the way people assume. Alas, it does not guarantee you a fulfilling life of exciting emotional and sexual partnerships (although if you have such a life, mazel tov!)
No, the Lovers soul card is really all about learning who you are and how to be true to yourself in the midst of personal relationships with others. This often involves making tough choices and learning how to separate "you" from "we." Such lessons are the central purpose of a man or a woman on the Lovers soul path and, of course, can take a million different forms:
- whose interests should prevail, mine or yours?
- should I choose this person or that person?
- am I staying in a relationship out of love or fear?
- am I sacrificing too much?
- am I selfishly using this person?
- etc., etc.
There is one other major arcana card in this constellation which influences a Lovers' soul path: the Devil.
[Light and Shadow Tarot]
The Devil card represents all that is raw and untamed in a person. If this power is harnessed in a positive and healthy way, it can result in tremendous creativity and freedom. Expressed in such a manner, the Devil influence can greatly assist in helping a Lover realize their true self and live a better life.
In our society, however, the Devil card is more often experienced as a hidden factor or shadow in the Jungian sense. Expressed in this negative way, men and women who get lost on the Lovers soul path can struggle with addictions, repressed sexuality, guilt, shame, feelings of inadequacy or other life-inhibiting conditions. As an unconscious coping mechanism, they may project these negative emotions onto other people or social groups, judging and scapegoating them.
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Next Week: the Chariot Soul Card
[NOTE: If you haven't yet determined what your Soul Card is and would like to, please go to the introductory post of this series found here, do the calculation and play along!]