Oh and by the way, the next time you hear some straight guy complaining that the concept of sexual consent is just overly complicated, too nuanced and difficult to apply, remind them that --
Oh yes, they do understand it when the shoe is on the other foot -- every subtle little nuance suddenly becomes crystal clear and obvious!
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Call me old fashioned and nosgstic, but I like the sound of the original
Word.
Right after i read your comment on RTG's blog about the song, I found the parody. I like it ...
that guy cannot sing but he is certainly a hotsie!
I'm at a loss for words for some of the things going on today.
Great point, Debra! Will use it for sure!
Whenever I hear this holiday classic I always call it a very rapey song. It is so creepy!
You crack me up - I am going to use that on straight guys for evermore.
I've never been a creeper, and I also become clueless when women are interested in me. But I did have a girl make comments that could easily classify as sexual harassment. She had some mental issues (like not having something in her brain to stop her from saying what she was thinking) so I just had to walk away. It's very uncomfortable.
It's been an abrupt run into a brick wall this season; we mostly ignored #metoo until this year.
I love the gay bar quip. I intend to use it everytime I read about some poor guy whose life has been ruined because he raped a girl.
Now that is a great post!!! FA LA LA...and all that jazz!
The song is funny! And, yes, of course those straight men understand consent when they want to. Shoe on the other foot much?
Funny and fandamtastic. I loved it.
Being a woman, I found no offense in the song and find it crazy after 50 years it's an issue...we can't just enjoy anything. Were to PC and no sense of humor. It was my and my husbands song at christmas!!! If were offended over that then what about every other movie made since the 40s? But I did enjoy the parody too.
I like that last picture and quote.. so absolutely true!
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I love all their parodies!! This one was funny and very quick to be on the topic.
Its so sad how we can take something good and classic and make into something bad. Just change the station people and move on!
Great parody! However, not a lot of straight guys will be talked into going into a gay bar, but maybe the suggestion is enough to make the point.
No need to go to a gay bar to understand consent when you are a straight man: I bet every single one of us had once in his lifetime received the attention of a drunken, vulgar woman old enough to be his mother. Or just not his type.
lard, my spouse has started something, hasn't he? men just don't understand...
Hey Debra,
How's it goin', eh?
I remember a few years back in Vancouver when a buddy of mine and I went into this bar in downtown Vancouver. We didn't realise that the bar had changed management and was now a gay bar. Anyway, a few dudes flirted with my buddy but not me. I felt rather rejected.
That's some satirical video.
Thank you so much for your kind comment on my blog. It means a great deal.
Gary
As I was saying about this being a subject that needs to be talked about....
Love the parody! That poor guy can't win; he will either be accused of sexual harassment or have an unwelcome house guest. Fine lady, don't let the door hit you in the ass! But if you stay, you're making breakfast.
I totally agree with the second illustration. Someday I must tell you the time I was traveling home when I was accosted by a gay fellow at rest stop on I-95 near Laurel, MD. I made it home alive with my honor intact. That's all I'll say...for now.
Cool parody! Thanks for sharing it :)
I'm not sure if it was last year or two years ago when I really listened to that song, and I really heard it for the first time. And it creeped me out. I'm so glad there's a backlash now. Love the "rewritten" lyrics.
Debra, I like the gay bar quote and straight men know exactly what is what especially if they ended up in a jail cell with a huge guy that started saying things like, "no means yes" or "you're just playing hard to get" etc, etc.
Not to be too difficult here, but I'm disappoint by those commenters who say that the song "creeps" them out. Please, go read something about the history of the time period in question before you apply your #metoo comments about it. In a nutshell, back then, a woman was called derogatory names and had her reputation ruined if she stayed overnight at a man's house, boyfriend or not. Just like today, there were double standards back them and the morals/values were definitely what we call "old fashioned", but they were real and we shouldn't apply todays warped PC stupidity to stuff from that time period.
In regards to consent: it's a common sense thing. "No" means "No", where you're straight or not. And any one who doesn't get that, male OR female, deserves to be treated like garbage.
That final analogy is so perfect! Thank you.
@ G.B. -- You're absolutely right about that time period's double standard. But if her reputation could be ruined simply by staying overnight with her boyfriend, why was her boyfriend so insistent that she stay? Didn't he care about how she would be ostracized with a ruined reputation? Or was he (*gasp*) only thinking about his own needs and to hell with everything else? One way or the other, G.B., this song will always creep me out, whether by yesterday's standards or today's!
great quote and so true!!! Love the video. Thanks for sharing
I don't know which I love more the lyrics or the look on his face as he sings them. Bwahahaha!
I hope you know I'm totally stealing this.
Thanks for sharing! We enjoy this.
As a kid, I just liked Dean Martin. Now, as a mom and grandmother, I am infuriated by what it means. The parody is excellent.
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Brilliant Deb! Love the video and the straight guy in a gay bar comment!
This has to be the best post ever!
Every time I've seen or heard the song performed--I have a version on a Ray Charles CD--the woman always seemed to be playing hard to get, implying that the whole thing is consensual. Of course, "playing hard to get" may simply be wishful thinking on the part of a straight male (in this case, songwriter Frank Loesser.)
What you wrote about a straight male in a gay bar reminds me of a scene in the 1970s comedy The Ritz. A straight man is hiding out from the Mob in a gay bathouse. He's worried that someone might get fresh with him. A regular patron of the bathhouse assures him that he'll be left alone. When the straight man protests that someone has already tried to get fresh with him, the regular patron replies, "Beginner's luck."
My friends' toddler gets the concept of consent better than most grown men. My family was over there visiting, when the wee one got entranced by my anklet. It's a little delicate for small hands so I asked him not to play with it. LOL, now it did take his father saying "Listen to your Aunt Rommy. If she asks not to be touched there, go play with something else." but the 2 year old listened and instead started running around in circles with a plush bunny and minion toy.
I like the texting part. That was funny. And uber. Oh my gosh and the gay bar thing. Yep. So true.
I totally agree with the last words specially
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